Learning HOW to Love....

We all love people. In our hearts, we care deeply about them. We hurt when they hurt and are overjoyed when they are blessed. We love people, but we don't always know the way to express it. In my life, I've been amazed by the number of times people have been unaware of my sincere love for them.

It's not enough to love others. We need to learn HOW to love. In the next few postings, I would like to offer healthy ways of loving others. God wants us to mature in our ability to love one another in ways that honor Him. I know He is challenging me to "grow up" in this as well!

Today's Question: How can I show love to someone who is sick?

The best beginning is always prayer. Pray for the person. Pray a prayer of faith and healing. Intercede for them until their healing is complete. Stand with them.

If the person has small children, offer to take the children for a few hours or overnight. If they want their children to stay with them, offer to come and help. If they refuse the help, don't force it! Honor their right to privacy. Don't be offended. If you do care for their children, respect their food/television/toy restrictions and make sure you know how they want you to deal with bath time, discipline, and bedtime.

Offer to clean their home or run errands for them. Again, if they refuse the offer, don't be upset. They will always remember you offered. If they receive your help, limit conversation and allow them to rest while you work.

Prepare meals for them or for their family. If they are from the church, contact Pastor Karen to join the team of women preparing meals. If not, find out what they can or can't eat. Make sure your dishes are labeled so they know where to return them. When dropping off the meal, don't overstay your welcome - let them rest.

If they are in the hospital, call to see if they want visitors. If they do, limit your visit to 30 minutes so they won't tire. Ask before touching, hugging, or praying with them. They have already lost so much control over their lives when hospitalized! Don't be offended if they do not want visits. Send a small gift or card to let them know you care.

Years ago I was hospitalized because a virus contacted overseas attacked my heart and other vital organs. I was in intense pain...but there was a stream of visitors all day. I tried so hard to be kind, but it required all of my strength. In the middle of the night another sister who had been hospitalized wheeled into my room, waking me to pray for her. Tears rolled down my cheeks - I tried but couldn't focus enough to pray. An angry nurse moved me into a private room so I could recover. All of my visitors loved me and I was so grateful - but I needed them to love me by letting me rest. I have never forgotten that lesson.

Let's learn HOW to love! If you have suggestions, questions, or comments,please post them in the comment section. I love hearing from you!

Pastor Carla